Broken heart is an overwhelming sorrow of pain and distress to the point of madness. It drives men and women insane. It actually sucks. It cuts you too deep if you are not careful. Nobody should have the right to hurt someone. But when you love someone so much and suddenly the relationship turn sour, heart break can’t be avoided no matter how careful and cautious you’ll be.
Everybody gets hurt in different ways. Whatever the cause, it can be dealt positively.
There’s an antidote for a broken heart, simply drink sleeping pills and after you wake up in the morning, you’ll feel fresh as new. Now, that’s a lie. But the best advice I can give you is to let your heart recover. Yet, by reading that line, your inner response is, “It’s not as easy as that”.
Actually, your right. It’s not very easy. Everyone could relate to that experience. If you loved someone so deeply before and suddenly he/ she’s gone, it’s like everything is a mess. But if you are not willing to let yourself heal, who will? And that feeling of being stab a hundred times over and over again? Who likes that?
To mend a broken heart, you need to be willing to move on and start on with your life. It takes a decision. It may hurt so badly but you have to make a decision.
The following questions below may struck a chord inside:
- How would you start without him or her?
- Could you survive without him or her?
- Would he or she ever comes back?
Dealing with these questions are natural. Sometimes, you may come to the point that you thought no one would help you picking up the pieces. You are not alone. Many people are suffering the same ordeal.
It’s a fact that when you loss someone you’re so attached with, your heart will be exposed to negative feelings. But as I said, you have to make a decision to move on and get it over with.
It’s really hard to move on once he or she’s gone but, if you won’t deal with it once and for all, you’ll be wasting your time for nothing. You have to face it, accept it and don’t escape from it.
Here are some practical ways to recover from a broken heart:
1. First thing first, cry.
You have to let it out by crying. Find a room where you can cry it all out. Take boxes of Kleenex with you and don’t get out in that room. Cry a lot until all your heartaches inside has been poured. There’s nothing wrong with crying. It’s like crying when your cat had died from a car crash. Pouring your heart with your tears may help. You will notice that after you’ve cried that something has been release.
I’m not saying that the hurt and the pain could be erase in the moment. At least, you’ve been doing the first step on how to mend your broken heart. Make a decision like, tonight-will-be-the-last-night-I-will-cry for you”
2. Allow your thoughts to bring back the memories. The Good, the bad, the ugly and the worst
Whether it’s a major disaster, a complicated one or sweet memories, just let it flow in your mind. You may feel like you’re crazy but let it be. I’m saying that you’re just practicing some things that you need to to let go. Don’t force yourself to forget him at once, it will take time. Let it flow and let it go.
3.Get out and talk
After crying inside your room, get out and talk to somebody. May it be your friends, your mother, your father or even your cat or dog. It will help. Dogs and cats could understand you. They are the great listeners at all times. I’m saying that you’re in the stage of releasing something what’s inside.
Do not attempt to call him. Do not talk to the person who gives you such excruciating pain. It only prolong the heartache and it will never help you recover. It drives you crazy too. Confrontation, blaming and screaming may be possible.
4.Go out and have fun
After you release everything, depends on your thought process and the way you cope up the situation, plan something different. Go shopping and dance with your friend. Slowly and slowly, you let go. It may hard at first but you need your life back. Have you heard the saying, fake it till you make it. Well, it depends upon you. You have to bring back your joy and live life to the full. Life is too short to live in misery. Don’t let anyone grab your joy.
5. Bounce back and be positive
You are beautiful, no matter what they say. Yes, it’s Christina Aguilera’s song. But nobody should steal away the beauty of your smile. It’s a sin. Perhaps not, but it happen sometimes. Just be more positive. And tell the whole world that yes, you’re suffering from heartache of losing someone but there’s no way in the world you’re going to build a monument to that person.
If the person left for someone else, he doesn’t deserve you. You deserve more.
Well, everybody knows that broken heart suck and it is not a piece of cake. But if you learn how to eat the cake sweetly, your broken heart could be mended. Though, it takes time to heal the wounds but there’s hope.
Just allow yourself to heal.
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